Over the years, I’ve seen countless trends, formulas, and quick-fix strategies for growing churches. Experts share flashy solutions and promise instant results. I’m not here to do that. I’m no expert. But after decades in ministry, I’ve learned a few things—lessons shaped not by hype but by real life with real people.

I have ideas. I have preferences. I have likes and dislikes. I’m not saying these are the ideal church trends. I’m simply sharing the things I’ve come to value most while pastoring. 

Some I’ve written about before. 

Some are in my book Pause for Pastors.

Some I’m sharing here for the first time.

Forget the Show

Yes, do things well. Don’t be lazy or careless in your ministry. But beware: people are getting tired of the show. Flashing lights, concert-style experiences, and motivational speeches have their place—but God’s place might not be that place.

Honor the Word “Pastor”

I never liked being called Pastor or Reverend. I like being called Chris—and I still do. But more than ever in my life, I cherish the word Pastor. Our culture is desperate for shepherds—those who love deeply and care genuinely for the sheep.

Don’t Create a Hierarchy

Be cautious of the climb-the-ladder mindset. Don’t measure spiritual maturity by titles or positions. While hurrying up higher, we might miss Jesus as He walks His way down.

Refuse to Let Numbers Equal Success

Track your attendance and finances. Steward well. But don’t let numbers define your value or effectiveness. The number of people in a room does not equal success or failure. The kingdom of God isn’t measured by cultural metrics.

Realize Your Weaknesses

You don’t have to know everything. You don’t have to do everything. And you certainly don’t have to pretend you have no weaknesses. You do. I do. We all do. Acknowledge them. Ask for help. Receive help. Lead from humility.

Do Other Things Besides Ministry

Don’t let all your time, energy, and attention revolve around your church or your ministry. In fact, it was never supposed to be yours in the first place—it’s God’s. But you know what I mean: go to a ball game. Take a long walk. Spend time with friends and talk about anything but church. Being bi-vocational isn’t just a necessity for small-church pastors—it might be a gift that keeps you grounded and whole.

These aren’t church growth hacks or the latest ministry trends. They’re just a few truths I’ve come to value through decades of preaching, pastoring, celebrating, and grieving with people. Ministry is more than numbers, titles, or performance. It’s about loving well, leading humbly, and living authentically—one faithful step at a time.